aiming

The purpose of this site is to compile a grief expression program on the web site, on a blog, at all community agencies serving the public, and at local churches. Here you can view and use this as a tool for providing some relief. Aimed at hurting people, to let them know there is hope for comfort even if only for a short while at a time.

When I leave this world, this continue to serve people in need of assurance and enlightenment. There may be some personal sharing from me and I invite anyone who wishes to open up and share also to do so freely with comments. That is the upside of support, one on one or in groups. I've gone to five grief relief groups since 3/2000. They all served a purpose and got me through my toughest times, alone, in the beginning. This has been a burning desire for a long time, I'm looking forward to fulfilling my mission in life, (an encourager.) God Bless and comfort you all.

family circle

OUR FAMILY IS A CIRCLE OF STRENGH AND LOVE. WITH EVERY BIRTH AND EVERY UNION THE CIRCLE GROWS. EVERY JOY SHARED ADDS MORE LOVE. EVERY CRISIS FACED TOGETHER MAKES THE CIRCLE STRONGER.

stairway to heaven

If tears could build a stairway
and memories build a lane,
I'd walk right up to heaven,
and bring you home again.

Of course sometimes we feel that way in our extreme grief stupor. But in reality is it for our best or their best interest at heart? I know now after my long journey through the down side of losing a loved one, that I was only concerned about how much my heart was hurting. When I read this little memorial it brought back feelings of how it was at that time. Now I want what is best for my son. I cannot out do God's love and provisions. Now my son deserves nothing but the best.

sorry

I have a long-on-going-prayer-list. I am always sorry and very sad for my people I pray for when the prayer is answered according to God's will and in His time, which is not according to our ways. His ways are not our ways. I do promise to pray then, for the understanding and comfort of the remaining families who are now suffering. There has been a passing away of another extended family member. I send my heart felt love and prayers again. God Bless All.

reflection

This was a very unpleasant month eight years ago. My son was murdered, his birthday was in nine more days, I was in and out of court each week with that matter, there was the viewing, the burial, his niece's birthday party usually attended, my birthday he never forgot, and on and on for two years until January 02 when the murderer plea bargained with the district attorney.

I have been comforted by the Lord and plan to pass it on. I reflect, but now instead of crying and feeling all of the pain again I changed my focus. I don't honor his death but I do celebrate his life lived and the fact that nothing separates me from the love we shared. We will be together again, I'm so glad he is saved. I also have loved ones around me that want my love. I have two loved ones that choose to be away but I just want happiness for them. It's not about me. And that is what true love is all about. Thank you Lord for the time I had to spend with all of my children and grandchildren. What more could a person want in life? The less you want. the more you feel you have. I am blessed.

tears

As I share with you

in your loss,

I'm especially remembering you

in prayer

and trusting you'll know the speccial love

and comfort that only

God can give.

thankful helps

Along the long journey through the grieving process it will get easier to be thanful. Gratitudes is the answer. It is wise to be thankful for what you had in your loved one rather than to be angry for what you have lost. We have gained much from them. Nothing will deplete those riches. Our earthly bodies will all meet again in the end of time. We tend to take inventory of the reasons we miss them and the list seems to grow. I have a long list of what I miss due to my son's absence. I also seem to beat myself up once in a while yet about guilt. I whish I had done better for him. I know he doesn't want me to feel that way because to be absent from the body is to be in the presence of the Lord if you are saved by Grace, through faith. I can just hear Jerry now saying all is well with my soul mom, love you!